'I owe her roughly $5,000': Guy Ghosts Ex Girlfriend Regardless of Five Thousand Dollar Debt

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Sienna Varady
Dec 7, 2023 5:00 PM EST

There are a few rules which one should always remember. These set of 'rules', for the sake of the argument, apply regardless of whom you are dealing with. The first rule would be to never, and I mean ever, mix business and pleasure. This might seem obvious to some, but apparently, people still believe they can get away with this rule of thumb unscathed and unharmed. 

The guy you will read about down below relays the story of what transpired between himself and his girlfriend. So, long story short, they dated for almost a decade, decided to indulge in some serious pampering with a two week vacation, only to find out that they are no longer compatible. Now, I know this sounds like a typical breakup story… But did you really think I will spill the beans before you even got the chance to read the thread yourself??

On that note, have a look at the juicy story below! Don't forget to let me what you think of this fiasco, and because I love ending things on a positive note, check out a wholesome reddit story about a man that falls in love with the mother of his child here!

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    Ghosting my GF of 8 years and not giving her money for our two-week vacation
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    AITAH for ghosting my GF of 8 years and not giving her money for our trip?
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    So about two months ago, me and my girlfriend of 8 years took a trip together to Europe for two weeks. It was an an amazing vacation and we had an incredible time, but after we returned she started acting increasingly distant from me.
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    She went to a wedding and had a +1 but didn't invite me or tell me about it until a few days before. Then she ignored my calls while I was away on a business trip and never texted or returned them until after I got back.
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    When she finally picked up I asked her what happened (in a very nonchalant and non-accusatory way) and she didn't give any sort of solid answer. When I pressed her about it (she always gets upset at me if I don't call her back, even if
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    it's just like an hour later) she just screamed at me "I didn't feel like talking to you! How about I never talk to you again!" And hung up. Tried calling her back, she didn't pick up. Sent her a text a day or two later, no response.
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    At this point something inside me just kind of broke. Like, we've had fights way bigger than this and I've always tried to patch it up with her because I was head over heels for her... but this time, it was as if the "in love" feeling just vanished instantly. I think it was because her reaction was so.. unprovoked.
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    Three weeks later she calls me and I freeze, I don't pick up. She starts sending angry messages telling me I better pick up "or else" and accuses me of cheating (I didn't). I don't pick up because I know it's going to be an absolute sh show of a phone call.
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    Another 2 weeks have passed. I've kind of accepted that the relationship is over. But I feel guilty about not paying her back for the trip (we used her card while traveling abroad because mine has a foreign transaction fee).
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    The trip was expensive, about $20,000 total, $10,000 of which is already been split (stuff we booked before traveling). Essentially, I owe her roughly $5,000.
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    Before the fight, I had mentioned, at least on 3 occasions, that we should sort out our finances for the trip, and if she wanted, she could send me her CC statement and I would sort through it myself and then pay her back. However she kept brushing it off and said we'd do it later.
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    Regardless of how she acted, I'm a person that believes in always paying back what is owed asap and I'm feeling guilty about it. Like I literally will always Venmo people before they leave my sights. So my question is this... if we never talk again and I never pay her back, AITAH?
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    facinationstreet · 6 hr. ago It's better to close out this chapter so you can start fresh. It also closes the door and doesn't allow her to use that as an excuse to try to get
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    back in touch once her affair partner leaves her. I'd just find a way so that you don't have to be in direct contact with her for the funds transfer.
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    Loud-Bee6673.4 hr. ago I agree. You want to walk out of this clean and be done. I would send her a message requesting and itemized total of what you owe, with
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    receipts or credit card statements. If she doesn't make your best guess. And if you are feeling petty, send 75%. I think it is best to annihilate and ties that she can use to try
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    to drag you back into contact. But you can probably duck paying her back if you want to.
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    jasonlmalone 5 hr. ago ill defer the part about paying back the money as that has been addressed. however, I don't get it. 8 years together and then an enjoyable trip (presumably) and then
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    out of nowhere ghosting you?? something is not adding up. even those suggesting cheating but when? on the trip??
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    OP after 8 yrs you should know her well enough to suspect whats going on. what do you think happened? if you had to guess
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    Puzzled-Register-495. 4 hr. ago Everyone is jumping to cheating, but I wonder if she's pregnant. Either that or she expected a proposal. Now that I
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    look at that, probably the latter. Especially if she was the one 'spending' all the money on the trip.
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    Medical_Ad_7548 - 5 hr. ago Yeah, close the finances up. Pay her &5000 or find out the exact amount. Do this regardless of what happens in your relationship. - I'd be curious though, what happened to in the first place. her off
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    Latter-Cost-1331 · 4 hr. ago It's ok to not talk to her ever again but if you don't pay her back you are essentially a thief... it's not a few hundred dollars it s 5 k... come on bro
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    Hot-Border-66 · 2 hr. ago Can't believe I had to scoll this far for this answer! "Aita if I steal 5k and ghost her?" Uhh, yeah. Duh lol
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    bizianka 2 hr. ago YTA. Regardless of status of your relationship, you still own her money. Pay her.
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    foodfueled_nightmare 4 hr. ago The only reasons for her odd behavior would be 1.) She was expecting You to propose on that trip. 2.) She doesn't want to show You Her credit card statement because
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    She's hiding something from You. 3.) She's possibly cheating on You and proof of that could possibly be on that credit card statement. 4.) You're not telling Us the
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    whole story and She has a legitimate reason for treating You in this manner. I'm willing to bet that She was expecting You to propose. Pay Her back the money You owe Her but make sure that
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    there's a paper trail of You doing so. Always have proof of payment/reimbursement when money is involved! People tend to become petty/vindictive when they feel wronged.
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